Tryst 2FA Updates: Quit being stupid

Tryst has had to update their security protocols for advertisers. Seems that phishers are too successful at gaining access to accounts. Tryst is doing away with the emergency recovery code on a piece of paper—not because it’s not secure, but because it’s only as secure as the human holding the piece of paper. That human has to be smart enough not to fall for a phishing scam, which is the problem.

Seems that whoever is falling for the scams are falling hard, and Tryst is as insecure as it was before implementing 2FA and the recovery code due to this problem.

Who is falling for the phishers? Is it the OF girlies taking over the site? Other escorts? All the “male escorts” who are clearly so stupid as to think they have an actual market? I’d really like to know.

While I don’t expect Tryst to ever release the demographic info of who is being taken in by schemes and ruining it for the rest of us, Tryst certainly knows, and I wonder if they’re considering no longer offering advertising options for that group.

Or, if the culprits are spread amongst the population evenly enough that nobody is any more safe than anyone else and none of the advertising options change. I wonder if there are repeat victims and if Tryst can just kick them off the platform because they clearly aren’t able to figure out what’s a phishing attempt vs an actual contact.

What Tryst is doing

As of today: canceling everyone’s emergency code (you can toss that piece of paper!).

If you get locked out of your account, the recovery process now involves calling and talking to Customer Support to get access again. This way, they can verify that you are the account-holder and you can verify that you’re not giving a scammer access to your account.

Tryst Customer Support, long renowned for being slow and unresponsive, is going to get even slower due to the onslaught of stupidity requiring them to reauthenticate accounts all the time, since the phishing of Tryst advertisers is very successful, apparently.

Tryst still requires the 2FA login, with the same options as it always has had. However you currently log in now is still going to work, and that process will not change. The only part that changes is that if you’re locked out, you now have to contact their Customer Service.

(Wasn’t the original reason they implemented 2FA was to cut down on the volume of phishing victims losing their accounts, calling Customer Service for help and clogging it up? Wasn’t that piece of paper supposed to make account recovery more self-service? And now they’re having to revert back to Customer Service calls because some advertisers remain morons?)

Suggested security options: Passkeys and physical security tokens

Tryst strongly suggests you use a passkey to secure your account, if you aren’t already.

Creating passkeys on Apple devices often utilize your biometrics. In the US, biometric data is accessible by police across all 50 states. It’s also a very hot commodity that every corporation, like Apple, wants to get their hands on. (We all know that corporations are secure from hacking and extremely ethical in what they do with your personal information.)

Biometric passkeys are probably not a good option for sex workers anywhere. It’s not a good option for anyone, IMO. Giving someone access to your biometrics, for free, to log into a website, is nuts.

If you can get away with creating a passkey that involves something other than your biometrics (e.g. a long password), then it’s as solid an option as any other 2FA option offered. If the creation of the passkey involves your biometrics, give it some thought before creating it.

Another suggested option is a physical security token. These work like authenticator apps, but in physical form (i.e. a fancy USB stick). They were suggested as one of the original 2FA options when Tryst made that change. A physical token is an actual devices that costs money and can be lost, your biometrics are free to you and usually don’t change.

At this time, anything that requires a password to unlock/use cannot be compelled by police. Your biometrics are collected by police as a normal part of their work (i.e. mugshots, fingerprints) and are not legally protected.

My security suggestions

Right now, Tryst is not requiring that everyone switches to using passkeys and/or physical security tokens, which is good. Both have risks of being lost and/or compromised by others; this is the risk of any type of redundancy. You can only have so many systems in place to pick up the slack of another system breaking before it gets ridiculous. Not only is nothing online ever 100% secure (because that’s the nature of being connected to other computers), everything is fallible to human error because humans are fallible.

Apparently, the humans advertising on Tryst are extremely fallible.

If you’re still confused after reading this post and reviewing all the information Tryst has published (which I’ve linked to), I’m not sure what to do. I can’t offer much help beyond what I’ve said here and in my original Tryst 2FA post (where I review their 2FA options from the perspective of a US-based sex worker). I don’t like any of this, but I also need to keep advertising.

Honestly though, if this information is too confusing for you, you may be susceptible to phishing and probably should advertise another way, instead of endangering the rest of us. My tolerance for stupidity is at low ebb and only likely to get lower. Get up to technological speed first before moving your business online.

One easy way to defeat phishers/scammers

What I suggested in my other post still stands: use a separate email address, with auto-response, for your Tryst ad and direct potential clients to your website. This means you never have to check that email and you won’t see phishing scams that may tempt you into doing something you regret.

Serious clients will go to your site, anyway. You won’t lose money. (You can put as many links, photos, videos and touring/incall/outcall information into your auto-response that you want, which may offer options you don’t have with your Tryst ad.)

Turn off your Tryst Contact/Message option. Force clients to contact you through your proper channels: your real work email, your form, or even a phone number you only list on your website. Phishers and time-wasters won’t bother because they like low-hanging fruit. Being a little bit annoying at the start of the process stops them and won’t stop someone who actually wants to book you.

There may be a way to set up auto-response texting on your phone. I don’t know because I don’t use my phone this way, and haven’t looked into it. I know that scammers will text phone numbers on MegaPersonals, I assume they do the same with Tryst ads. Utilizing an email/auto-response system is the best way to avoid scammers who use Tryst if there’s no way to do the same with phone numbers.

Create a 100% free Linktree account, and post it to your ad. (At this time, Linktree is the only link-in-bio site that Tryst allows to be posted on your ad.) You can post any link, add photos, videos, plain text and phone numbers to your Linktree page and remain within your free limits.

If you don’t have a website, try using Linktree as a pseudo-site to give clients information, including the contact information you want them to use.

Essentially, any sort of roadblock you can utilize that will stop scammers but not be a problem to actual clients is the method you should use. This is the same concept as finding certain items in an image: to verify you’re human and not a bot. It’s the same idea. You need to be able to screen out non-clients at the very first contact so you don’t fall for phishes/scams (with the bonus of helping to weed out time-wasters and pimps, too).

Avoiding phishers/scammers means you avoid jeopardizing your account, and the entire Tryst platform. I’ve sometimes looked at my auto-response email account and it’s 80-90% scam emails, which I never see because it’s not my actual work email for clients to use.

There is a small percentage of clients who never contact me, usually because they’re trying to book last-minute in the middle of the night, so I’m still not losing any money by using this method. I fall in the mid-range right now, there is nothing extraordinary about how my work is structured. It minimizes my risks to everything as much as possible, while still being accessible to those who want to book me.

While there are things I should be doing to be more competitive in the market, none of those things revolve around lowering my risk levels. Being accessible to phishers/scammers isn’t even about boundaries, it’s about life on the Internet and being smart about minimizing risk.

There’s no grand concluding statement, other than: you hoes need to stop being stupid.

the best escort writers

Once again, reaching back into the drafts. Once again, sadly still relevant.

Flogging hard on the dead horse of escort plagiarism, I decided to take a different tack this time. I’m going to keep an ongoing list of the most-plagiarized escorts. It would be even cooler to have a list of their most-copied phrases but I’m feeling lazy.

If you want to add yourself to the list, comment below and I will. This is for escorts whose website content has appeared over and over again, spread across the Internet, even leaping international borders. [List was never really made, probably since I never published this post.]

This [post] came about due to finding yet another plagiarist of my words, this time a supposedly intelligent high-end escort. Though I don’t condone it, I understand the reasoning when someone in the lower ranges takes the words from someone they perceive to make more money than they. But someone who touts herself as having even more education, travel experience and linguistic abilities than me takes my work? She’s a fraud, pure and simple. (Well, as is any plagiarist.)

Despite what anyone thinks about the claims I make, I can back up everything I say. My resume is not padded and is certainly not as diverse as some. There are a few that I fully believe and the rest…I have to wonder. When I read words that sound familiar, then the case is closed, as far as I’m concerned.

[Several high-end escorts in 2026 are still riding hard on the coattails of one particularly well-written escort who is retired. They've built whole personas off her back, including very similar photos. Is it truly that difficult to be a smart and creative girl who also charges a lot of money? Are these expensive copycats that bereft of intelligence? It boggles the mind how they have any business at all, assuming that men who pay $2k+ just for an hour expect a bit of personality and intelligence. I might be expecting too much on all fronts.]

Smart clients are probably going to start screening escorts by using Copyscape. Why not? If the words on a site entrance you, make sure they aren’t the thoughts and experiences of someone else—the original—whom you probably would enjoy more than the pretender (and thief). That is, assuming a client would be able to determine who is the originator. In some cases it’s almost impossible due to the sheer volume of escorts using that one woman’s words.

most plagiarized escorts

me (in every persona I’ve had)

Several high-end escorts who have long retired, though their words live on, still recognizable, which makes me wonder if it’s just constant repetition, or has ChatGPT now ingested their work?

some things are universal

Drafted when I lived in Singapore, so sometime in 2009/10.

Children act like children, though the children in Singapore are generally better-behaved than children elsewhere (and Asian babies are so cute!).

Saw an ad for a local children’s daycare. All these cute little Singaporean kids and the one token white girl.

Gyms still pressure-sell and everyone gets suckered in, then regrets it—as evidenced by some discussion forums I’ve looked at.

Cabbies add unexplained charges to the meter, pretend to not understand you or just act lost.

Women, no matter naturally tiny they are, still want to lose weight. As evidenced by all the weight-loss products and advertisements here. Or maybe all this stuff really works and that’s why they’re all so skinny. Or maybe not.

Women with straight hair want curls, women with curly hair wish for straight. Take this one to the bank.

Asians flock to stores to buy branded goods, the more expensive the better. Westerners flock to markets looking for knock-offs, haggling for the best bargain.

Nobody likes illegal immigrants working in their country. And yes, the browner-skinned people are always the “immigrants.”

Technology is imperfect around the world.

Hotel maids move my stuff around too much for my liking no matter where I am.

Regardless of where I am in the world, when I travel alone, I invariably end up in the next room to a fighting couple. She always starts crying. Then he either leaves or starts hitting her. Eventually, it stops. In case you’re thinking this leads to hot make up sex, it doesn’t. Sex never follows these hotel-room abuses. Fortunately. I’m not sure I’d want to hear the sex that follows abuse.

non-universal opinions

I’m still not used to the metric system. It’s utterly meaningless. What is 100g of something? An ounce? A pint? A teaspoon? It’s just a number divisible by 10. Okay, so I’m very Imperial. I’ve been told Australia successfully switched to metric in recent history and I don’t believe anyone died. I still like Imperial. It means something. It was created to measure real-life scenarios. It’s not sterile.

The only metric measurement I know is the weight of my checked bag. I can guess it to within a kilo, though I still can’t guess its weight in pounds. My goal was 10-12kg, but it regularly clocked in at 12-15kg. No getting around it no matter how I tried to skim the weight down. Even now in the US, I’ll check my bag’s weight and ask them to change the scale to kilos for me. But I can’t weigh anything else in kilos, if it’s not my bag, then I have no idea how much it is in kilos (and really, not a very clear idea in pounds either).

I still love US greenbacks. They feel like money. They smell like money. They sound like money. I think we have the sexiest currency in the world, but maybe it’s just what I’m used to.

Australia and Singapore and other countries have plastic money. It’s slick but not papery. No smell. Singapore’s currency is graduated by size, each denomination is radically different in color, it has a clear plastic window on the bills (which is cool) and a Braille system so the blind can easily handle it. It’s as progressive as currency can get. But it’s not sexy.

happiness in the time of 1984

This is a very old draft, obviously. I had a lot more to say that’s lost to time and TBIs. Sadly, it’s all still relevant.

Often, the worse things are, the more vehemently people are encouraged to be sunny.

The most recent findings, for example, are that wealth makes you happy but children do not. [By recent, this was published in 2009; and by findings, of course I mean what is obvious to all.]

The most inspiring people are those least obsessed with their own happiness, especially those who stride confidently across the globe to create, evoke change, or wrest from life what they will.

Eleanor Roosevelt believed happiness “is not a goal, it’s a byproduct.” I think she might be right.