Something has slowly dawned on me since I’ve been out of the US. It seems a lot of married clients suffer the delusion that I’ve never encountered a married client before. Let’s get rid of these delusions immediately.
Married clients make up the majority of any sex worker’s business. If it weren’t for marriage, the entire industry would collapse in a week — worldwide. With the exception of small towns full of men and few women, married men make up 90% or more of my clientele. I’m a big, big fan of marriage. I think everyone should do it.
Married clients seem to believe that being married is like a disease or handicap and they deserve special treatment for it. No, marriage is not a rare and special condition (see above). I’m really, really used to dealing with married guys and you don’t need to tell me that you’re married. I automatically assume that you are and behave accordingly. Just another day in the life for me.
Your marriage is not a special, fragile, rare flower. It’s not a disease, it’s not a condition, it’s not a handicap. In fact, your marriage probably bores me as much as it bores you. It’s merely a fact of your life and usually the least interesting thing about you. Really, I don’t care — especially if I’m not going to see you again (long-term clients are a different story but that’s why I refer to my interactions with these clients as “relationships.”) The only way I can have fun with this is by playing a game of guessing how many years you’ve been married; I’m usually right. (I also like to figure out what’s lacking in your marriage, it helps me to help you!)
Married guys are not rare, special or interesting.* Single guys are the unique ones in the broad scheme of things. And they’re datable, bloggable material. (Have already covered that can of worms in-depth.) Single guys don’t waste a lot of time reminding me they’re single, just in case I forget and might do something to wreck their precious singledom. Single guys aren’t super-paranoid about trivial things which could be taken care of with a little common sense (I can offer suggestions, if you’d like). Single guys tend to think their singledom is not special or all that worthy of mention, which is refreshing.
So when you book with an escort, don’t tell her you’re married. She already knows.
*Talking solely about marital status, not the person himself.
PS: If you are married to more than one woman in more than one country, I find your marital status quite interesting. Otherwise your long-term, broken marriage with kids does not interest me.
PPS: If you really do believe your marriage is a special, fragile, rare flower — the bloom is probably off that flower if you’re seeing sex workers. I’m not judging, just pointing out a bit of truth.
PPPS: Those researchers who always seem so surprised that married men see sex workers are stupid and have obviously never worked in the industry themselves. I just wish their propaganda would stop making married clients believe they’re somehow unusual.